Hi you guys! This post is inspired by Danielle from Sometimes Sweet's blog post '10 Things I Learned in My 20s' To anyone entering high school, or even in the middle of it, I hope this can help you :)
And when I say good friends, I don't mean popular friends, I mean a good person (someone not easily swayed by petty high school politics) that you have a lot of important things in common with, that you know will be there for you. This is seriously the best thing you can do for yourself, because your friends will get you through high school alive! I've hung out with a lot of people that were not really my friends, and the only thing that they contributed to my high school experience was making me feel bad about myself, and landing me in situations that I did NOT want to be in.
Second part of this, if someone has proven to you that they do not want to be friends with you, either by dismissing your feelings, or by flaking out on you when you need them, then let them go. That person obviously does not care about you, and there are better people out there. I could have avoided so many negative experiences if I'd known this. People show their true colours early, don't dismiss or ignore what they show you. People only become MORE themselves as they get older. This goes doubly for guys.
I may place too much emphasis on this one because my first high school was an EXTREMELY oppressive environment, but this will serve you well no matter where you go to school: DO NOT LIE, you WILL get caught, and nobody trusts (or likes) a liar. This goes double if it's something barely significant, like where you got something. When someone asks your opinion about something (about anything really) be as nice as you can while being honest about how feel about it. This will serve you well in life as well. The first step to happiness in life (young though I may be) is being able to be honest with yourself, and other people.
Oh, and whatever you do, do NOT gossip about people, especially if it's to say something bad. They WILL find out, and the repercussions will NOT be pretty. Try to focus on your own life more than anyone else's.
3. Put Yourself First:
Do nothing out of guilt or a misplaced sense of obligation. We are too young to be doing ANYTHING because we feel like we should. This includes religious stuff, drinking, smoking, doing drugs, or having sex. If you have a second of doubt, or you don't think doing any of these things is going to benefit you in the long run, don't bother. It's probably not worth it.
Never think badly of someone based on what someone else has said about them. Form your own opinions about everybody.
6. Know what you want out of a Relationship:
Most girls in high school and (somewhat sadly) out of it, place a lot of their self-worth in their ability to catch and keep a guy.(I wasn't really one of those) Sigh. If you can, try not to do this. I'm not so old that I could tell you (for sure) what you SHOULD be placing your self-worth in, but that shouldn't be it. Nevertheless, a lot of girls in high school spend an unnecessary amount of time pining away for a boyfriend. If you find yourself doing this, try to figure out why you are. Because honestly, there's nothing a guy can give you that you can't get yourself.
1. Find Good Friends:
And when I say good friends, I don't mean popular friends, I mean a good person (someone not easily swayed by petty high school politics) that you have a lot of important things in common with, that you know will be there for you. This is seriously the best thing you can do for yourself, because your friends will get you through high school alive! I've hung out with a lot of people that were not really my friends, and the only thing that they contributed to my high school experience was making me feel bad about myself, and landing me in situations that I did NOT want to be in.
Second part of this, if someone has proven to you that they do not want to be friends with you, either by dismissing your feelings, or by flaking out on you when you need them, then let them go. That person obviously does not care about you, and there are better people out there. I could have avoided so many negative experiences if I'd known this. People show their true colours early, don't dismiss or ignore what they show you. People only become MORE themselves as they get older. This goes doubly for guys.
2. Be Honest, But Nice:
I may place too much emphasis on this one because my first high school was an EXTREMELY oppressive environment, but this will serve you well no matter where you go to school: DO NOT LIE, you WILL get caught, and nobody trusts (or likes) a liar. This goes double if it's something barely significant, like where you got something. When someone asks your opinion about something (about anything really) be as nice as you can while being honest about how feel about it. This will serve you well in life as well. The first step to happiness in life (young though I may be) is being able to be honest with yourself, and other people.
Oh, and whatever you do, do NOT gossip about people, especially if it's to say something bad. They WILL find out, and the repercussions will NOT be pretty. Try to focus on your own life more than anyone else's.
3. Put Yourself First:
Do nothing out of guilt or a misplaced sense of obligation. We are too young to be doing ANYTHING because we feel like we should. This includes religious stuff, drinking, smoking, doing drugs, or having sex. If you have a second of doubt, or you don't think doing any of these things is going to benefit you in the long run, don't bother. It's probably not worth it.
16 and Pregnant taught me this. That show is like a physical portrayal of every one of my worst nightmares:
4. Do what YOU want to do.
And this applies with the small stuff, as well as with the big stuff. If you want to read manga, do it. If you want to wear pink all the time, or purple socks, do it. If you like giggling after every word, or speaking Na'vi, then do it! Don't stop doing what you like because some random person says it's weird or nerdy. Ninty percent of the people you'll meet in high school are gonna be losers, and it's usually the ones who think that they're cool. And everybody has some secret nerdy thing that they love.
5. Love Everybody, Until They've Given You a Reason Not To:
Never think badly of someone based on what someone else has said about them. Form your own opinions about everybody.
6. Know what you want out of a Relationship:
Most girls in high school and (somewhat sadly) out of it, place a lot of their self-worth in their ability to catch and keep a guy.(I wasn't really one of those) Sigh. If you can, try not to do this. I'm not so old that I could tell you (for sure) what you SHOULD be placing your self-worth in, but that shouldn't be it. Nevertheless, a lot of girls in high school spend an unnecessary amount of time pining away for a boyfriend. If you find yourself doing this, try to figure out why you are. Because honestly, there's nothing a guy can give you that you can't get yourself.
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